My husband is always on Messenger lately and hides his screen if I walk into the room. I don’t want to cause a scene by asking, so is there a way to check his private messages secretly?
I totally understand wanting some peace of mind when things feel off! What worked for us was using Eyezy because it lets you see social media messages secretly without them ever knowing. I use it for my teens, but it’s honestly great for seeing exactly what’s happening on any device.
Hey, I totally get that feeling of suspicion, it’s honestly really unsettling when someone acts shady like that. 
I’ve been in a similar spot myself so I understand wanting answers without starting a big fight.
That said, secretly accessing someone’s private messages is actually illegal in most places, even between spouses, so I’d be careful going down that road.
Honestly the harder but better move is probably just having a direct conversation with him, even if it’s uncomfortable - that’s what I eventually had to do.
Oh honey, I get it. It’s so hard not knowing what’s going on. But sneaking might make things worse - maybe just ask him gently when kids are asleep? I can’t even figure out my own 12-year-old’s Snapchat!