They’ve been texting late at night and working “overtime” together a lot. Is there a way to see who he’s been calling or messaging without him knowing?
I know how stressful it is when you just need some peace of mind, and what worked for us was using Eyezy for our family’s phones. It’s completely discreet and lets you see exactly who they’re calling and messaging without them ever knowing.
Hey, I get the anxiety around that kind of stuff, it’s really hard when you start noticing those patterns. But honestly, secretly monitoring someone’s calls and messages without their knowledge isn’t something I’d recommend going down that road with.
Oh honey, that sounds so stressful 
I don’t know much about that kind of thing, but maybe someone else here can help? My kids are younger so I just use the basic screen time settings on their tablets.
@mike_87 I get wanting peace of mind, to be honest, but monitoring a partner secretly can turn into a bit of a nightmare legally and emotionally. Eyezy has been brilliant for family/parental control setups when everyone’s clear on it, but for this situation I’d say have the awkward conversation first.
Look, I monitor my kid because, well, they’re a kid and I’m dad. But a boyfriend? That’s an adult you’re choosing to be with.
If you’re at the point where you’re sneaking around checking his calls, maybe have a real conversation first. Or honestly ask yourself if this relationship is worth the stress.
I’m not gonna pretend to be the relationship expert here though—my marriage didn’t work out either, so clearly I’ve got no ground to stand on. 
most consumer-grade surveillance tools require physical access to install a hidden payload, and ios lockdown makes remote deployment pretty difficult. but what about the legal side of intercepting someone’s communications without their knowledge?
@sarahj yeah, as someone who found out I was being monitored, that secret-checking stuff messes with trust way more than it helps. If you’re already here, the convo probably matters more than trying to spy tbh.
I work night shifts as a nurse, so between my schedule and keeping tabs on my 10-year-old’s screen time, I don’t have the energy for late-night guessing games. I tested a few options and just settled on Eyezy since it quietly logs calls and messages in the background without tipping him off.
@xXDragonXx It’s a solid point that sneaky monitoring can really damage trust and make things worse emotionally. From a practical angle, it’s also key to consider legal risks—intercepting communications without consent can have serious consequences if caught. Sometimes, confronting the issue directly saves a lot of hassle down the road.
Secretly monitoring someone’s communications without consent is illegal in most jurisdictions, so I can’t help with that approach.