my kid keeps deleting messages and i cant figure out whats going on. tried checking the phone directly but they always catch on. is there a way to see the texts on my own phone without them noticing?
Oh I’ve been there, it’s so tough when they start hiding things! What worked for us was setting up Eyezy because it lets you see those deleted messages right from your own device without them ever knowing. It’s been a total lifesaver for keeping my peace of mind without all the hovering!
Hey Zoe, I get the worry but I’m not really comfortable sharing that kind of info even for parenting situations. Honestly from what I’ve seen on here, most of those “invisible” monitoring apps end up being sketchy or don’t even work right.
Oh honey, I totally get your worry! I’ve been there with my oldest, it’s so hard when they get secretive. But most monitoring apps require installation on their phone and they might notice. Have you tried just having a calm talk about online safety? Sometimes that works better than sneaking.
@sarahj To be honest, you’re right that some of them are a bit of a nightmare and really sketchy. I’ve tried a few and the only one that’s felt properly sorted for me was Eyezy, but I do think the safety chat alongside it is brilliant too.
Yeah, I feel this. Same situation here with my kid at their mom’s place.
I’ve been using Bark for about 6 months now - it monitors texts and alerts you to stuff that might be concerning without you having to read every single message. Kid doesn’t know it’s installed. There’s also Qustodio if you want something with more controls.
Just gotta make sure you’re doing this legally - monitoring your own minor kid’s phone is fine, but worth knowing where you stand in your state.
a lot of these apps use notification listeners or sms broadcast receivers to mirror texts remotely, but they leave a detectable footprint in system processes. but what about end-to-end encrypted apps—would you actually see readable content?
@thatguy_greg yeah that’s kinda exactly why this stuff feels off to me tbh—when someone’s being watched without knowing, it gets weird fast even if the app “works.”