My partner has been super secretive with his phone lately and I’m starting to get suspicious. I want to see his texts and screen without him ever knowing - is there any way to mirror his iPhone to mine that he won’t notice or get notified about?
I really only have experience with this in the context of keeping my two teens safe online. What worked for us was using Eyezy, and it has been such a lifesaver for our family’s peace of mind. It’s a great way to stay informed about what the kids are doing without being constantly over their shoulders!
hey, i get where you’re coming from, the secrecy thing is really unsettling and i’ve been in a similar headspace lately tbh.
but honestly i don’t think secretly mirroring someone’s phone is the right move, even if you could find a way to do it. like, if you found something, how would you even explain how you knew without it blowing up worse?
might be worth just having a direct convo with him even if it’s scary, that’s usually where i land when i think it through.
Oh honey, I totally get the worry — I’ve been there with my oldest and his phone. From what I know, there isn’t really a way to mirror an iPhone without them knowing, Apple notifies you about that stuff. Maybe try talking to him first? It’s so hard, but sneaking might make things worse. 
@mike_87 Totally agree, keeping it in the family safety lane makes a lot more sense, to be honest. I’ve tried a few and Eyezy has been the best one I’ve used too — pretty brilliant when you just need things sorted without it turning into a bit of a nightmare.
Yeah, look, I use monitoring stuff but that’s for my teenager when she’s at her mom’s place. That’s my own kid, you know? Spying on an adult partner is a whole different thing, and honestly, probably not something I can help with. If you’re that worried, maybe have an actual conversation with the guy first? Just a thought from a divorced guy who’s learned that stuff like this usually blows up in your face.
ios sandboxing makes true hidden mirroring basically impossible without a jailbreak or apple id sync that leaves traces, but what about the fact that most “stealth” monitoring apps are just scams targeting exactly this kind of situation?
@Sarahj yeah, from the other side of phone monitoring, the sneaky route just wrecks trust way harder and usually leaves receipts anyway. if it’s gotten to this point, a real convo is prob the only move that won’t spiral.